Several years ago, I was determined the to go to the movies by myself. It sounds ridiculous that this was a big event for me, but it took me lots of courage to be out in public alone. I was sure I would see people I knew. Would they think I had no friends? How embarrassing that would be?
Nevertheless, I was committed to “trying to go it alone,”just this one time. The theatre I chose was 30 miles away from home which greatly reduced my chances to run into anyone I knew. I bought my ticket, bulked up on candy and popcorn and took a seat in the darkest part of the theatre. I not only survived being alone that first time, but I surprised myself, I loved it. I was free at last!
No longer would I have to wait for others to accompany me. If someone wanted to join me, great, but I was now able to explore by myself. My world expanded since that first “solo trip.” Since that time, I have done lots of things by alone. I have dined, attended concerts and lectures, traveled and explored unfamiliar places alone and even moved to places where I knew no one.
In addition to enjoying these events, I discovered that it was easy to meet people who I never would have encountered if I were with friends.
Now I have a choice to fly solo or in formation. Both scenarios are fun and exciting. I no longer limit my possibilities. I am free to be myself, alone or with others!
What about you? Have you limited yourself in any way?
What would be the advantage to you if you expanded your experiences?Is there something you would like to try, but have not yet found the courage to do so?
I am including a wonderful short video about ways to be alone which I found wonderful. Enjoy!
“Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss, you will land among the stars.”
Anomyous
I love this quote! If only I could shoot for the moon and then be glad to land wherever.
Instead, I often find it is hard to get a project completed and ready to go. Even a small project can seem overwhelming and takes me endless time.
The main reason I become overwhelmed is that I tend towards being a perfectionist. I know in my heart that perfectionism never works. But still, I try to get my work done perfectly. The result is lots of anxiety and delay!
Since perfection is unattainable, I am working on giving each project my best shot, letting go of the outcome, and shooting for the moon!
Who knows if I will reach my target? But, surely I will reach farther than I am now!
What about you . . .?
Do you have a project you need to get done but is not completed?
Do you know what holds you back?
Have you been delayed by perfectionism or any other reason?
What could you do differently in order to be ready to shoot?
If the worst thing that could happen is to land among the stars rather than reaching the moon, could that work for you?
“Here’s to the crazy ones. The misfits. The rebels. The trouble-makers. The round pegs in the square holes.
The ones who see things differently. They’re not fond of rules, and they have no respect for the status-quo. You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify, or vilify them.
But the only thing you can’t do is ignore them.
They change things. They push the human race forward. And while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius.
Because the people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world, are the ones who do.” ~ Apple Computers
I often find my thinking to be “different.” If someone tells me something, I would rather ruminate on their thoughts, rather than accept them immediately. I have to admit this is not always an easy path to take.
However, the benefits of being “crazy” is that I am always discovering something new about myself and the world.
Life is always interesting and I am interested.
I like to think of myself as a “straight shooter,” but realize other people find me a bit “crazy.”
What about you? Are you one of the “crazy” ones or a “straight shooter”?
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